Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together almost 19 years and have two children together. We’ve had our ups and downs.
Approximately five years ago, we had an argument and he kicked me out of the home, which led me to stay with my mother out of town.
During this time, I begged to come home and was denied. After about a month, I discovered that he had flown out of state, rented a hotel room and rental car for three days so he could meet a 19-year-old girl he met on Instagram!
I don’t know if it was out of retaliation or feeling rejected (probably both), but I also had an affair, which I’ve regretted every day since.
I have forgiven him, and he claimed the same. I thought things were good.
Last winter, I stumbled upon a letter he had written to a 26-year-old heroin addict who was, at that time, in prison for a drug possession charge she caught right after they met. They were having an intense emotional affair.
We were working past that and in therapy.
Things started getting better until I stumbled upon an email confirmation of a review he had posted about an escort he had been with.
He confessed to having paid contact with 10 different escorts over the past year.